Jane Oineza admits losing herself in past heartbreak

Jane Oineza

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MANILA, Philippines — There’s nothing more tragic than to lose oneself while in a relationship. The cast of the recently concluded digital series “Si Sol at Si Luna” shared their biggest heartbreaks as they reflected on the lessons imparted by their online show.

For Jane Oineza, who gave life to the lead female character Luna who carried a heavy emotional baggage, her biggest heartbreak was losing herself in love.

“Nakalimutan ko ang sarili ko, at hindi ko na napa-prioritize ang needs ko,” she admitted.

“I tried to do everything for that person — meet his expectations, give in to compromises. I realized na parang nag-iiba na pala ako because of what he was asking from me. My biggest heartbreak, then, was hinayaan kong mangyari iyon,” she added.

Joao Constancia, the kind-hearted team leader Ben in the series, related that his most painful breakup came after years of being with someone.

“She wanted to break up with me after dating for a couple of years,” he recalled. “When I realized that she was really serious about breaking up and stopped seeing me after, that was when the pain cut deepest,” he said.

In hindsight, Joao now understands that the lesson was clear: “I needed to love myself more before loving anyone else.”

For Karina Bautista, the series’ smart and strong-willed Ara, her biggest heartbreak came from family.

“Realizing that we were broken, and then having both my parents move abroad, was really hard for me as a child,” she revealed. “I knew they did it to earn for us, but I still longed for their presence and the feeling of having a complete support system.”

Karina shared that the hardest moment was when she finally understood that everyone is given a different set of cards in life.

“I knew I was still blessed, but that didn’t make the pain any lighter,” she said.

But she learned not to blame anyone, choosing instead to work hard and pray. “It taught me that love comes in many forms. Choosing to love is harder than just feeling it… being able to feel and give love is truly special.”

Much like Luna, Marnie Lapus faced a heartbreaking end to a relationship that struggled against an age gap. “[My biggest heartbreak] would probably be ’yung pakikipaghiwalay ko sa asawa ko,” she said, revealing that she was four years older than her then-partner.

Marnie remembered how the imbalance in maturity and priorities took its toll on their marriage. “Parang sa story ng series na ito, ako si Luna, siya si Sol. Hindi niya na-enjoy talaga, technically, ang 20s niya. He had to be a husband and a dad.”

But the most painful moment, she recalled, was telling him it was over. “It took me two years, crying every day, trying to save our marriage. Ang pinakamahirap ‘yung sasabihin ko na sa asawa ko na pagod na ako.”

Still, the journey brought Marnie precious lessons. “To be honest, I have no regrets, kasi okay kami ngayon. We worked things out kasi we eventually gained maturity. The breakup taught me to stand my ground and say, ‘This is not the kind of mom I want to be.’”

Today, she has found peace in knowing that she can also choose to prioritize herself.

Looking back at their experiences, the cast agreed that heartbreaks, though painful, are necessary chapters of life.

“Sometimes heartbreak is meant to happen because it helps us to become better versions of ourselves and that letting go is necessary to moving forward,” Joao said.

“Kapag nasaktan ka, ang best mo na magagawa ay gamitin ’yon, at gawin siyang learning moment for you. Ang importante matuto ka at hindi mo na hahayaang mangyari iyon sa iyo,” Jane added.

She leaves an important reminder about love, as the series comes to a close. “Masarap mag-mahal at masarap ibuhos ang pagmamahal pero dapat ’wag nating kalimutan ang sarili natin. Paano tayo magmamahal ng ibang tao kung na-let go natin ’yung sarili natin? Dapat ’yung person na mamahalin natin, alam niya kung sino tayo — strengths, weaknesses, mistakes, lahat ng bumubuo sa atin. Love is trying to accept each other and grow nang magkasama.”